When a relationship ends, it's common to experience anger, shame, confusion and grief. It might take several months for these emotions to subside, and during this time you may find yourself alternating between emotions.

You'll have good days and bad days. Be kind to yourself and accept all offers of help and support from friends and family. Catching up with old interests or developing new ones will help you cope with feelings such as loneliness, depression and low self-esteem.

Grief is a natural response to a relationship break-up. Even though it may seem to take some time to get over that first stage, most people do so without help.

Sometimes people find it difficult to let go of bitterness or anger and that may be a sign that outside help, such as counseling, would be useful. After a break-up the best things you can do for yourself are:

  • Be kind to yourself, healing takes time; accept the ups-and-downs as a natural part of the process
  • Look forward — even though you feel bad for a time, it will pass
  • Get involved — resist the temptation to withdraw and isolate yourself. Build your circle of friends and your interests
  • Avoid drinking too much and if you smoke, try to quit. Both tobacco and alcohol are depressants.
  • Look out for the good moments — even the darkest day has glimpses of relief or humor
  • Adopt a balanced lifestyle with regular exercise, adequate sleep and a healthy diet
  • If in doubt, or if your mood stubbornly insists on staying low, don't delay, seek help.

 

Source:

HelpGuide.org. Coping with a Breakup or Divorce. November 7, 2023.